Question Asked

What if my service for others goes unappreciated?

I have been helping an elderly lady that has very little - no money, no family, no friends. I have really enjoyed helping her. My problem is that it seems that no matter what I do it doesn’t seem to be good enough for her. If we get her furniture she wants expensive furniture, if we try to get her a better apartment - it is not big enough for her taste. I know in my heart that God wants me to help her but now I am feeling like I’ve been taken advantage of, and I feel like a big fat failure at helping someone in need. What should I do? I want to serve the Lord but sometimes I think I can never do anything right!

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The Heart of Service

You asked a really good question, because it goes to the heart of service. We are called by Jesus to do two things: love God and love others. And we are to love “unconditionally” because that’s the way God loves us.

We can understand completely your feeling that you have failed at helping this lady. Nothing could be farther from the truth! You have been obedient to the Lord in serving her, even when your service isn’t always appreciated. We aren’t responsible for how people react to our overtures of love and service. We are only responsible to obey what Jesus told us to do.

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Comments on Original Question


I've had the same frustration in my life. I love to give of myself to others in different ways but when the acts of love seem unappreciated, I wonder, what's the point?

If we are to look to God for all things, maybe we shouldn't be looking to particular persons for appreciation or reciprocation. God doesn't always work through the people
we think those things should be coming from. Think of other people in your life. Maybe the appreciation is expressed through someone else.

Maybe we need to remind ourselves to go to God more for our needs or wants and not look to persons. People will always disappoint us.

Do you know there are people who do that today? Still working very hard to earn salvation under the new covenant? -Phil Melugin

Just don't mind it. As long as you have done your part and your best. I think that's the best thing to do. - Kale Flagg